| Fuck the friendship... |
[Apr. 9th, 2009|09:16 pm] |
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| [ | The music in my mind... |
| | Night Ranger - Sister Christian | ] |
WATCH ME!
This speaks for all men who have ever been "that guy." It speaks for all those guys who have ever been blatantly patronized with such labels as "such a good friend" or "such a nice guy." It speaks for the makeshift pillows that catch tears cried for someone else, as if that comforting shoulder isn't even there. It speaks for the person who has always been there to feed female egos, but is always overlooked. It speaks for Cyrano, who longs for a Roxanne who could never see past his nose.
The "Friends Zone" isn't a very friendly place. If anything, it's frustrating and annoying. "It's just not enough."
And if you think it's all about the sex, you'd be wrong. It's about being seen as a guy and not a walking tissue. It's about being seen for what one is worth after being "that guy" for so long. It's about being seen and recognized and regarded. Sex is a very attractive plus, I agree, but I doubt if any man would steal a car, drive 9 hours, put up with so much shit, including going to prison, just for a meaningless fuck. It's about so much more.
But, just like Hitch said, women can't seem to see past themselves. Like Roxanne, they can't decide whether they want Cyrano's genius or Christian's good-looks, so they believe they deserve both. You gotta be able to pump iron and write poetry. That's why the "Friends Zone" exists. That's why guys always have to deal with the "nice guy" and "good friend" labels. That's why, even though nice guys to deserve a break, they'll hardly ever get them.
I can understand that. Women want the best. They believe they deserve it. Hell, I believe they deserve it. Who cares about "that guy" anyway? Who cares if he was always there for you to pick up the pieces when "the best" broke your heart? Who cares if he's being taken for granted?
Oh, and I'm sure you're wondering, "Then why does 'that guy' persist?" Why, after all the shit he knows he's putting up with does he not just up and leave? And then you realize that that's a silly question. Just because you won't love him back doesn't mean he can't really love you. Indeed, "Fuck the friendship." That guy deserves so much more. |
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